A Book by Matt Headley
Tend
What the vow actually costs. And why some people stay anyway.
I've spent years sitting with couples who are holding on by something they can't name. Not love exactly, not obligation exactly. Something older than both.
What this book is
Tendis not a fix-your-marriage book. There are plenty of those. This one is for people who already know it's hard and are still trying to figure out why they're staying. And whether that instinct is worth honoring.
The vow was never a feeling. It was a direction. And directions don't always feel like forward.
The book follows that thread: what it means to stay, what it costs, and what quietly grows in the staying.
"Tending is not the same as fixing. A gardener who tends doesn't demand the soil produce. They stay close, they notice, they do the next small thing."
Who it's for
- ·People in hard marriages who aren't ready to quit
- ·People who want to understand what commitment actually means before they make it
- ·Pastors and counselors who sit with these conversations regularly
- ·Anyone who has stayed in something difficult and wondered if that was wisdom or weakness
Tell me when it's out
The book is still being written. Leave your name and email and I'll reach out when it's close. You'll get an excerpt and a chance to read early.
Matt Headley is a pastor and writer based in Anniston, Alabama. He writes a faith column for the Anniston Star and leads Ecclesia Community. His formation book, The Impeded Stream, is also in progress.
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